Thursday, September 10, 2015

Ellie: 6 Months

Half a year. It is hard to believe. Somehow we made it. ; ) Ellie is developing more and more of a personality and its fun to watch her be so attentive to things. She really likes to take in what is happening around her and focuses on things so intently. She definitely likes to observe. I can tell she will be the more cautious and reserved of my girls. That doesn't take much with Molly though. 

These last 6 months have been challenging but also a lot of fun. I can't wait to see where the next 6 months goes!

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17lbs 4oz (75th %)
27" long (90th %)
Wearing size 3 diapers
Wearing 6mo and 6-9 mo clothes

Watching Molly dance - she thinks its hilarious
Look at herself in the mirror
Squeal and scream like a dinosaur
Putting everything in her mouth

Peach baby food
Being in her carseat for too long
When you take something that she isn't allowed to put her mouth

Starting to sit up a little bit on her own
Eating 2 meals a day (breakfast and dinner)
Sleeping on her stomach

She has started to wake up at varying hours during the night, usually between 4am and 4:30am. She will eat (we are working on weaning her off of that) and then sleep again until around 7:30am. I let her talk to herself in her crib until 8am. She takes two naps a day, the first around 11am and the second around 3pm.

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Ellie at 5 Months | Molly's Monthly Posts

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

The Comparison Trap

We all get sucked into it. Its instinctual as human beings. We compare. Everything we do/have is measured up against something else to determine its worth. In a very materialistic world its almost impossible to avoid. And for some reason when we enter motherhood it seems to attack us constantly from all angles. Milestones, baby strollers, breastfeeding, schedules, preschools, and on and on and on. Its never ending. What's even worse is when you get suckered into the comparison trap in your own household. Between siblings.

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From the day I found out I was pregnant with our second (Ellie) I started to compare things. I was sicker this time around than I was with Molly. I have gained X amount of weight with E vs with M. I have heartburn this time, I didn't before. And these are not always bad things. Its okay to compare within reason for knowledge sake. But it grows quickly and happens without even realizing it. One day I am comparing the color of their eyes and then all of a sudden E must not be as smart because M had already done something that E has yet to do. Boom!

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Molly was a very "early" milestoner. She rolled over at 2.5 months, she started scooting at 4 months, crawled at 5.5 months, pulled up at 6 months and started walking in earnest around 11 months. All the little milestones in between were early too (grabbing toys, putting things to her mouth, etc). But there were other things that she was "late" on such as teeth (she didn't get a tooth until after her 1st birthday), words, social things etc.


Then Ellie came along and she was definitely different from the get-go and in a great way! Molly had terrible colic that really rocked our world (to put it mildly) and I was terrified to go through that again with baby #2, but Ellie surprised us and was a much happier more relaxed baby. Thank goodness! But as Ellie got older, week by week I was constantly comparing. I started to get concerned that Ellie wasn't doing this or that. I started to feel like she was behind and something must be wrong. I sent countless emails to the pediatrician that started out "Molly was doing this and Ellie isn't, whats wrong with her?" And then my pediatrician put it best, "Nothing is wrong with her," she said "Ellie is her own person." Wow, that really hit me hard. I wasn't giving Ellie a fair start in life, I was too busy trying to match her up to her older sister. I was robbing her of her own identity at 2 months old. Yikes!

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I get it, it is hard. It is hard not to compare in everything and when the only experience you have is one child then its natural to look to that child for guidance but we have to remember, every baby is different. Every child has their own personality, their own view of the world and I would never want my girls to be the same. I want them to find their own way and become their own person. I want them to find their uniqueness in the world. And I certainly don't want to be the one who squashes a wish, or a trait because I was too busy comparing.

The trap is easy to fall into. Especially in the world we live in. But be careful, it can happen in your own house too and its easy to miss.

Let's all quit comparing and start celebrating our unique differences that make us who we are. One child at a time.