We read that pretty early on a bedtime routine, and routine in general, were good for babies. It helps them to feel calm, safe and protected going through the same structure day in and day out. So once we started to set a regular bed time for Molly (around 4 months) we decided to put together a bedtime routine that would help her wind down and get ready for sleep. Fast forward to now and at 18 months old we are still practicing the same bed time routine. Is that good or bad?
Bath time at 7:30 following dinner
Lotion, diaper, pjs, brush hair
Dad reads 2 books while I rock and snuggle with her and she finishes off her milk
Books done, lights out
I stay in the room and sing to her and rock her
I get her basically asleep, say a prayer and good night and lay her down in her crib
*Note: between lights out and down in crib is usually 10 minutes
Like I said, this was the exact same routine that we created when Molly was around 4 months old. A few minor things have changed like bottles vs sippy cups, length of singing and rocking but for the most part its identical.
I have begun to wonder when, and if ever, we will be able to just put her in her crib together, say our good nights and then walk out and turn off the light. I am afraid that we might have created too much dependence on the rocking and singing and now she will need it FOREVER! I know, that is a little exaggerated, I hope, but transitions are always hard and despite what some people think children need to be taught. She isn't just going to decide, "okay, just put me down now. I am done with rocking."
I keep coming back to that scene in American Pie Reunion where the Mom is bouncing her son, who is at least 4 years old, to bed. Please don't let that be me!
Does anybody else have experience with this? What is your bedtime routine? Still rocking your little one to sleep?
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Way back when, seems like forever ago, I had a newborn baby that didn't want to breastfeed. The struggle of those first few months and the desire to breastfeed an unwilling child made for a tough time. A time that I felt like nobody talked about. So I decided to write a blog post about it. A post to hopefully help others that are in my same situation. Unless you have been there you just can't relate.
Flash forward to now and Babble, one of my favorite Mom resources, picked up my post on breastfeeding to publish in their new eBook, Parenting, Uncensored: Straight Talk from Real Moms and Dads on Breastfeeding. The eBook is a collection of posts on the subject of breastfeeding from several wonderful bloggers who have gone through one thing or another with breastfeeding.
"In twelve frank and funny essays, Parenting Uncensored gives a range of perspectives on an often controversial topic: breastfeeding. From Stefanie Wilder’s plea for everyone to stop judging one another to Ilana Wiles’s account of pumping in public (“You don’t know breast pump awkwardness until two 20 year-old guys are coordinating your pumping session over walkie talkies, then appearing to escort you to the back of the hair and make-up trailer and standing outside the front door … “), you’ll hopefully find a kindred spirit and even be inspired to join the conversation. Several of the essays in the book were chosen by the Babble community as the most compelling and helpful examination of the topic."
I am honored to be featured in this eBook and excited that more women will get a chance to read and relate to my personal story on breastfeeding. Its a topic that is heavily debated and one that no matter what your story women continually feel judged. Hopefully more and more mothers will be empowered by this eBook.